Liberating Spaces

For the last months I have written quite a bit about emotions and reason. In what I called the emotional revolution, I see a process of transformation through which we realize that reason is not the only legitimate source of knowledge and meaning in our lives. We are starting, as individuals and as communities, to get into contact with our emotions in ways we can share and give them common meaning by new and rediscovered means – images, music, movies, farming, cooking, exercise, travelling, comedy, Internet and social networks, etc. – at a global level. Emotions are becoming essential to understand our environment, our peers and ourselves. We are as much emotional as rational beings. To give full meaning to our reality, reason and emotion need to be accomplices.

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It is said that when the Earth was created, the Sun and the Moon were made of the same stone coming from a faraway place of the universe. The Sun was given the power of light and the Moon the power of beauty. During the day the Sun would illuminate the Earth, giving strength and energy to its creatures and plants. During the night the Moon would break the darkness with its soft silver light, inspiring the hearts of animals and humans. Every day and every night, the Sun would come and go when the Moon would go and come. For only very short moments the Sun and the Moon would vaguely see each other from the extreme sides of the earth. Because of its strong light, the Sun would not see the beauty of the Moon, and the Moon would not dare to look at the sun for fear of being burn. They were for each other a mere moment of every day and every night. (more…)

I see a bright light coming to me…I cannot be sure it is there…but it is beautiful

In our society, we talk much about being sexually unfaithful. Having extramarital sexual relationships is seen as the ultimate sin in a sentimental relationship. Yet, we don’t talk so much about being emotionally unfaithful. When one person starts having emotions for someone else, the consequences can be very destructive, particularly for the one being emotionally abandoned.

Disloyalty of the heart is the one in which our partner starts feeling attached to another person and she doesn’t tell us. When she remains silent about her feelings. Then the beginning of the end is being sown. Being unfaithful at heart and keeping silence, even lie about one’s feelings to each other is a betrayal of love.

When this happens, how can we know? And, then, if we suspect it is happening, how should we react? A sexual relationship is physical. We can find evidence of sexual disloyalty, show them to the wrongdoer, and even to society if needed. Emotional disloyalty, however, is purely sentimental, intangible, even confusing for the one committing it. The sufferer is left in utter confusion, not knowing what’s actually happening, and sometimes immersed in guilt. He feels his partner gradually abandoning him at heart. And then he blames himself for all the wrongs that are causing it. These feelings often survive, and can become more intensive after we have been actually abandoned.

In truth, though he might be responsible for the void left in his partner’s heart in which another person is coming in, she is disloyal at heart when she remains silent, waiting for her feelings to abandoned her partner, and denying him the opportunity to rectify and repair what he’s done wrong.